Saturday, November 12, 2005

IS THERE TRUE LOVE?

Everyday as we traverse through life in search of the perfect one, the one who will make us feel unified and in a state of complete. How will one ever find this thing called true love? What is true love anyway? According to one source that I managed to scour through, it states that true love exists not when in the company of others but in existence of oneself. Remember the times when your loved one went away for a while and the feeling of pinning for that person, missing the presence, in search of the love forlorn that seemed complete for an instant? That love is not true as the pinning or missing is a reflection of our self ego, the need to fulfill the void within us. Only as and when can we learn to love ourselves can we truly say that true love exists.

Then beckons the next point, so does that mean that true love rarely exists in relationships? It depends. Most relationships start off with a physical approach. We are intrigued and drawn the touch by another being. As individuals, we can never be complete. For example, a man will never be complete without a woman and vice versa. Only through the union of two separate beings can there be completeness. Some couples bond at the physical level with the hugging, holding of hands and occasional peck on the lips. They are also others who bond at the heart level when you hear the statement “having a heart to heart talk” describing two beings. True love can only exist when there is a bond at a spiritual level. Most couples have this momentarily when everything around them does not matter and the universe seems to encircle round their existence only. Most couples will concur that they have had at least one opportunity to experience such a feeling but such situations rarely last. Perhaps the tyrannies of life and the hectic work schedule and a conformist mindset has made it difficult for modern beings of today to truly experience this word called true love.

The value of identity of course is that so often with it comes purpose. ~Richard Grant